Comments on: In the Eye of the Beholder http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/ The Prince is dead, long live the Prince! Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:13:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Taoist Biker http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-281 Taoist Biker Tue, 10 Jun 2008 20:17:18 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-281 Your commandments are GOLDEN! Your commandments are GOLDEN!

]]> By: bluesuit12 http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-280 bluesuit12 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:03:20 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-280 Unfortunatly I've gone out on dates with guys solely on what they look like and some have been the worst dates of my life (they were not aware of your 10 commanments particularly 5 & 6). And I've had guys become a lot more attractive to me b/c of their personalities. Looks might grab my attention but personality definitely holds my interest. Unfortunatly I’ve gone out on dates with guys solely on what they look like and some have been the worst dates of my life (they were not aware of your 10 commanments particularly 5 & 6). And I’ve had guys become a lot more attractive to me b/c of their personalities. Looks might grab my attention but personality definitely holds my interest.

]]> By: Scomerican Girl http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-279 Scomerican Girl Thu, 22 May 2008 16:57:36 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-279 I'd have to say that I think women are just as physically selective as men. Thankfully, what women like varies so wildly between us that between us all we pretty much have almost everything covered. I know I have a friend who exclusively goes for the 'college professor type.' Inevitably about 10 years older than we are and slightly academic looking, this is not at ALL my cup of tea, but she gets weak at the knees. It's just about finding the right kind of guy for each woman and vice versa. That's the tricky part! But I'd absolutely agree that personality is the #1 thing for all the women I know. Appearance might get the conversation started, but I know quite a few men that I've found very attractive and...then they started talking. If they don't have the personality, they don't have anything, to be honest. Appearance can only get you so far, and usually that's just across the room to say 'hello.' Everything else hangs on whether or not you have a connection and that's all about personality. It goes both ways too, many men I wouldn't have looked at twice, but then I had a conversation with them and their wit and humor and opinions made them much more attractive. I've never heard that shift explained as 'personality goggles' though, but I like it! I’d have to say that I think women are just as physically selective as men. Thankfully, what women like varies so wildly between us that between us all we pretty much have almost everything covered. I know I have a friend who exclusively goes for the ‘college professor type.’ Inevitably about 10 years older than we are and slightly academic looking, this is not at ALL my cup of tea, but she gets weak at the knees. It’s just about finding the right kind of guy for each woman and vice versa. That’s the tricky part!

But I’d absolutely agree that personality is the #1 thing for all the women I know. Appearance might get the conversation started, but I know quite a few men that I’ve found very attractive and…then they started talking. If they don’t have the personality, they don’t have anything, to be honest. Appearance can only get you so far, and usually that’s just across the room to say ‘hello.’ Everything else hangs on whether or not you have a connection and that’s all about personality. It goes both ways too, many men I wouldn’t have looked at twice, but then I had a conversation with them and their wit and humor and opinions made them much more attractive. I’ve never heard that shift explained as ‘personality goggles’ though, but I like it!

]]> By: Dead Charming http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-278 Dead Charming Thu, 22 May 2008 04:17:35 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-278 Space Aliens or Illegal Drugs. That's how I explain Lyle Lovitt. Take that any way you'd like. And I have the AIM chat log just in case you really do doubt you said that in December of '06. On a Tuesday. Before noon. Space Aliens or Illegal Drugs. That’s how I explain Lyle Lovitt. Take that any way you’d like.

And I have the AIM chat log just in case you really do doubt you said that in December of ’06. On a Tuesday. Before noon.

]]> By: chefchick http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-277 chefchick Thu, 22 May 2008 03:59:32 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-277 By the way, I can't for the life of me remember any conversation where I said that... lol By the way, I can’t for the life of me remember any conversation where I said that… lol

]]> By: chefchick http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-276 chefchick Thu, 22 May 2008 03:58:52 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-276 "And I’m not sure I would agree that women are “less physically selective”." Then how do you explain Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovitt? Or Drew Barrymore and Tom Green? Courtney Cox and David Arquette? *shudders* “And I’m not sure I would agree that women are “less physically selective”.”

Then how do you explain Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovitt? Or Drew Barrymore and Tom Green? Courtney Cox and David Arquette? *shudders*

]]> By: essaytch http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-275 essaytch Wed, 21 May 2008 15:53:25 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-275 "If you don't say it, it can't be wrong." Well, that is unless NOT saying it is in itself WRONG...in which case, there's no recovery. You're effed. :) The complexity of women being what it is, I don't envy you men one bit. Which is why in my later years (whatever--I'm 29) I've learned to ease up on you all a bit. And I'm not sure I would agree that women are "less physically selective". But I do know that, for myself, I have a very keen sense of what is "in" my league, vs. "out" of my league. “If you don’t say it, it can’t be wrong.” Well, that is unless NOT saying it is in itself WRONG…in which case, there’s no recovery. You’re effed. :)

The complexity of women being what it is, I don’t envy you men one bit. Which is why in my later years (whatever–I’m 29) I’ve learned to ease up on you all a bit.

And I’m not sure I would agree that women are “less physically selective”. But I do know that, for myself, I have a very keen sense of what is “in” my league, vs. “out” of my league.

]]> By: chefchick http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-274 chefchick Wed, 21 May 2008 03:34:40 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-274 Hmm, I suppose I stand by that. As a rule, I think so, but that's because of a phenom I've seen happen with some guys who view too much porn. This crazy false sense of what women are supposed to look like seems to take effect. And the age of the man is a factor too. Men get better about this as they get older - GENERALLY speaking. What's weird is I've become pickier as I've grown older...what's up with that? Now all I want is some Buff Stud to come peel me some grapes. No personality necessary. And I don't really even like grapes. Hmm, I suppose I stand by that. As a rule, I think so, but that’s because of a phenom I’ve seen happen with some guys who view too much porn. This crazy false sense of what women are supposed to look like seems to take effect.

And the age of the man is a factor too. Men get better about this as they get older – GENERALLY speaking.

What’s weird is I’ve become pickier as I’ve grown older…what’s up with that? Now all I want is some Buff Stud to come peel me some grapes. No personality necessary.

And I don’t really even like grapes.

]]> By: Dead Charming http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-273 Dead Charming Wed, 21 May 2008 03:19:02 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-273 Yeah, of course, both of you are on my list of women I find particularly attractive...and neither one of you are availiable. So phooy on both of you! =P I was chided over aim by chefchick already for asking a dumb question. On the other hand, chefchick is the close friend who said women were less physically selective, so take that with a grain of salt. I stand by my point that if you need rule 11, you're starting from behind anyway. Consider it rule 0 instead. It preceeds all other rules. Yeah, of course, both of you are on my list of women I find particularly attractive…and neither one of you are availiable. So phooy on both of you! =P

I was chided over aim by chefchick already for asking a dumb question. On the other hand, chefchick is the close friend who said women were less physically selective, so take that with a grain of salt.

I stand by my point that if you need rule 11, you’re starting from behind anyway. Consider it rule 0 instead. It preceeds all other rules.

]]> By: Lara http://www.deadcharming.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/comment-page-1/#comment-272 Lara Wed, 21 May 2008 01:58:23 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/in-the-eye-of-the-beholder/#comment-272 sounds like a good plan to me. i've always found that keeping a good one is harder than finding a mediocre one. sounds like a good plan to me. i’ve always found that keeping a good one is harder than finding a mediocre one.

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