Comments on: He Knows the Hour and the Day https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/ The Prince is dead, long live the Prince! Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:13:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Ruth https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-557 Ruth Sat, 23 Aug 2008 15:44:10 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-557 Hi there. I just read your post which I found cos I was looking for information on trisomy 9. I am in awe at your ability to share your truth with strangers like you do- full respect for open-ness and emotional honesty. I had a baby with full trisomy 9 in May this year. Discovered at 6 months gestation. Termination was the hardest experience of my life. My heart goes out to you. I too have stared at that little white coffin, and wondered how life can ever get back to normal... I just wanted to say hi anyway. Good luck with everything. x Ruth <strong><em>Because I watch my stats and keywords like a hawk, I know that I get about three searches for Trisomy 9 a week. Some of those people have come back more than once. Until today none of them have ever commented. I feel bad when Trisomy 9 searchers arrive here. I have no hope to offer, no reassurance to give. No part of my story will give solace or comfort or hope. If I have anything to offer, it's the simple proof that despite the outcry of every fiber of your being, life will, after some fashion, go on. Termination is an utterly and completely devastating outcome. The death of all that potential, all that hope, all those dreams, all in one clinical and detached moment...my heart truly goes out to you and your family. As for "normal"...for me, normal died on a hot summer evening. Now, I just hope to find enough shadows and reflections of normal every day to carry on. In time the reflections and the shadows of normal came to me as much as I had to struggle to find them; but normal...real and utter normal...is dead and buried in a tiny grave. Anyway, hi and welcome. There are many other things to read here that I'd like to believe are much more entertaining, and I'm always glad to have connected with someone enough that they leave a comment.</em></strong> Hi there. I just read your post which I found cos I was looking for information on trisomy 9.

I am in awe at your ability to share your truth with strangers like you do- full respect for open-ness and emotional honesty.

I had a baby with full trisomy 9 in May this year. Discovered at 6 months gestation.
Termination was the hardest experience of my life.
My heart goes out to you.
I too have stared at that little white coffin, and wondered how life can ever get back to normal…

I just wanted to say hi anyway.

Good luck with everything.

x Ruth

Because I watch my stats and keywords like a hawk, I know that I get about three searches for Trisomy 9 a week. Some of those people have come back more than once. Until today none of them have ever commented.

I feel bad when Trisomy 9 searchers arrive here. I have no hope to offer, no reassurance to give. No part of my story will give solace or comfort or hope. If I have anything to offer, it’s the simple proof that despite the outcry of every fiber of your being, life will, after some fashion, go on.

Termination is an utterly and completely devastating outcome. The death of all that potential, all that hope, all those dreams, all in one clinical and detached moment…my heart truly goes out to you and your family.

As for “normal”…for me, normal died on a hot summer evening. Now, I just hope to find enough shadows and reflections of normal every day to carry on. In time the reflections and the shadows of normal came to me as much as I had to struggle to find them; but normal…real and utter normal…is dead and buried in a tiny grave.

Anyway, hi and welcome. There are many other things to read here that I’d like to believe are much more entertaining, and I’m always glad to have connected with someone enough that they leave a comment.

]]> By: Welcome, O life! « Saints and poets, maybe; they do some. https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-355 Welcome, O life! « Saints and poets, maybe; they do some. Fri, 25 Jul 2008 01:31:53 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-355 [...] like that today. I was browsing the web, looking for something to occupy my time, when I read something that was beautiful and tragic and amazing. It made me tear up and cry and sob and feel so terrible [...] [...] like that today. I was browsing the web, looking for something to occupy my time, when I read something that was beautiful and tragic and amazing. It made me tear up and cry and sob and feel so terrible [...]

]]> By: Gelato, Salman Rushdie, Phad Thai, and Pushing Through « Prince Charming is Dead https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-354 Gelato, Salman Rushdie, Phad Thai, and Pushing Through « Prince Charming is Dead Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:18:48 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-354 [...] why I would be so depressed this weekend, so I will direct you back to the final paragraphs of "He Knows the Hour and the Day" where I discuss my daughter moving away with her mother.  On Friday evening, I dropped my [...] [...] why I would be so depressed this weekend, so I will direct you back to the final paragraphs of “He Knows the Hour and the Day” where I discuss my daughter moving away with her mother.  On Friday evening, I dropped my [...]

]]> By: Boo https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-353 Boo Wed, 09 Jul 2008 05:12:44 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-353 As the mom of that little boy that died 9 years ago I can assure you it is one the worst things anyone can survive. I am very appreciative of "Charming" agreeing to allow me to take our daughter with me, it is one of the most selfless things anyone has ever done for me. I know this is a huge sacrifice for him and I know what kind of impact it will have on Sarah. I plan on doing everything I can to help him be as involved in her life as possible. Their relationship is very important to me too. <strong><em>First, just in case anyone doubts, this is in fact the REAL Ex-Mrs. Charming, and the mother of my children. Second, I'm glad she added her memories of the events in question, so I could edit this to be as accurate as possible. WE went though this together, and WE will continue to be bound by these events and by a daughter that we both love utterly and completely. In a few short days she marries the man she loves, and heads off to her next adventure. And I want our daughter to know that her parent's love for her will always triumph over everything else in their lives. Boo, though our lives have changed, our paths have separated, and we continue on as best we can; I hope you will always know that I have always, do now, and will always love you. And I could never hold you back from finding what you need in life. Not even when it hurts so much to see both of you go. I will always be here for both of you.</em></strong> As the mom of that little boy that died 9 years ago I can assure you it is one the worst things anyone can survive.

I am very appreciative of “Charming” agreeing to allow me to take our daughter with me, it is one of the most selfless things anyone has ever done for me. I know this is a huge sacrifice for him and I know what kind of impact it will have on Sarah. I plan on doing everything I can to help him be as involved in her life as possible. Their relationship is very important to me too.

First, just in case anyone doubts, this is in fact the REAL Ex-Mrs. Charming, and the mother of my children.

Second, I’m glad she added her memories of the events in question, so I could edit this to be as accurate as possible. WE went though this together, and WE will continue to be bound by these events and by a daughter that we both love utterly and completely.

In a few short days she marries the man she loves, and heads off to her next adventure. And I want our daughter to know that her parent’s love for her will always triumph over everything else in their lives.

Boo, though our lives have changed, our paths have separated, and we continue on as best we can; I hope you will always know that I have always, do now, and will always love you.

And I could never hold you back from finding what you need in life. Not even when it hurts so much to see both of you go. I will always be here for both of you.

]]> By: Allison https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-352 Allison Wed, 11 Jun 2008 12:18:05 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-352 I'm going to have to disagree with you about people experiencing things far worse than you have. Burying a child would have to be the worst thing. I can't think of anything that makes me sadder. I’m going to have to disagree with you about people experiencing things far worse than you have. Burying a child would have to be the worst thing. I can’t think of anything that makes me sadder.

]]> By: maleesha https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-351 maleesha Wed, 11 Jun 2008 02:38:24 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-351 I'm sorry for the people who think they have the answers and are cruel enough to share them with you. You do have a heartbreaking tale to tell, but the fact that you are here to tell is is testament enough. I don't know that I could have survived an ordeal(s) of that magnitude. I’m sorry for the people who think they have the answers and are cruel enough to share them with you. You do have a heartbreaking tale to tell, but the fact that you are here to tell is is testament enough. I don’t know that I could have survived an ordeal(s) of that magnitude.

]]> By: pamajama https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-350 pamajama Tue, 10 Jun 2008 22:00:53 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-350 You're incredible, just the way you've put it all down. It's like being there. I've experienced the shattered thing and you describe it so much better than I could. The Bible beaters are just sick and twisted, the bastards. When I read the line about the move I choked out loud. Your forgiveness toward your ex-wife is beyond my understanding. Daughters need their fathers. I just don't understand how she could do that to you, or to a daughter she loves. I don't think the court system should allow it. As for a future relationship, I kind of think you'll have to beat women off with a stick if they read this. You’re incredible, just the way you’ve put it all down. It’s like being there. I’ve experienced the shattered thing and you describe it so much better than I could.

The Bible beaters are just sick and twisted, the bastards.

When I read the line about the move I choked out loud. Your forgiveness toward your ex-wife is beyond my understanding. Daughters need their fathers. I just don’t understand how she could do that to you, or to a daughter she loves. I don’t think the court system should allow it.

As for a future relationship, I kind of think you’ll have to beat women off with a stick if they read this.

]]> By: Billy https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-349 Billy Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:33:31 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-349 ooof. I just...no..I mean...I guess there aren't words. Just a hug, man. ooof. I just…no..I mean…I guess there aren’t words. Just a hug, man.

]]> By: Scomerican Girl https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-348 Scomerican Girl Thu, 05 Jun 2008 08:20:10 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-348 I absolutely agree with Pammy, your pain and struggles are extremely significant and they aren't small in comparison to others. You've managed to get through one of the worst things that can happen to a person and you should never apologize for that. I'm feeling at a total loss for words here, but I found what you wrote to be extremely moving. I'll just pass on many many virtual hugs from me. Oh, and also agree with Essaytch about some people deserving a punch in the face. That's not the God I know either. I absolutely agree with Pammy, your pain and struggles are extremely significant and they aren’t small in comparison to others. You’ve managed to get through one of the worst things that can happen to a person and you should never apologize for that. I’m feeling at a total loss for words here, but I found what you wrote to be extremely moving. I’ll just pass on many many virtual hugs from me.

Oh, and also agree with Essaytch about some people deserving a punch in the face. That’s not the God I know either.

]]> By: melisa https://www.deadcharming.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-347 melisa Thu, 05 Jun 2008 06:51:15 +0000 http://deadcharming.wordpress.com/2008/06/03/he-knows-the-hour-and-the-day/#comment-347 You are an absolutely beautiful writer. I'm not a mother but I could never imagine what you went through, my heart broke. And please don't feel you need to diminish your experience in comparison to others. Deep hurt comes in all sizes. You are an absolutely beautiful writer. I’m not a mother but I could never imagine what you went through, my heart broke. And please don’t feel you need to diminish your experience in comparison to others. Deep hurt comes in all sizes.

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